Posted Monday, November 21, 2011 by Kally83

Now that we're expecting again, a question I'm often asked is "Are you planning on having a homebirth again?" I usually respond with "We're sure going to try," because as most people know, there are no guarantees when it comes to labour and delivery. Another question I'm often asked is "How do you get the epidural if you're at home?". That's an easy one, you don't. Inevitably, the next question is "Then why do it?" That's a tough question to answer because there's a lot to it. The simple answer is, it feels right for me. Their response to that often frustrates me because it's usually something like "There's no extra crowns in heaven for giving birth without drugs" or "You don't have to be a martyr". I don't choose to avoid pain medication in birth because I'm looking for some kind of reward or acknowledgement (though I do admit that when someone tells you how amazing you must be, it does give a bit of an ego boost). I'm not being a martyr, I'm being a mother. Before anyone jumps the gun, I'm not saying that people who receive epidurals or have c-sections aren't mothers, not by a long shot. What I mean here is this: my job as a mother is to make the best decisions I can with the information I have at the time. A mother that chooses to have an epidural is making the best decision for her and her baby based on the information she possesses at the time. If I aim for a homebirth and the midwife tells me that it's just not going to happen, this baby needs to come out by c-section then off we go to the hospital for a c-section....because clearly, that's the best decision for us at that time based on the information we have. Though I may be disappointed by the outcome, I refuse to feel guilty about it.

It truly blows my mind that birth has become so medicalized that women feel like those who choose not to go down the hospital/drug path are somehow weirdoes. Like we're irresponsible parents because we're "taking a risk" by giving birth at home in the comfort of familiar surroundings. I can think of a million reasons why I wouldn't want to give birth in a hospital (given the choice) but I don't like sounding preachy. Having given birth once in a hospital, I can say I've had the experience but frankly, I don't need it again. It felt like a waste of time and gas to me quite honestly, but I'm lucky enough to have regular, low risk pregnancies, so the hospital isn't a necessity to me as it would be to others.

Mothers should be honoured for simply being mothers. Carrying a baby for 9 months is as important in the process as the actual birth. And what of adoptive mothers....those who sometimes have to wait years to finally be able to hold their child in their arms? We're all moms, just doing the best we can with what we have so let's cut each other some slack ok?

Friday Confession

Posted Friday, November 18, 2011 by Kally83
Have I ever mentioned how much I love the Food Network? There are very few shows that I can't sit through on this channel. I never really thought of it as an addiction but I'm starting to think it might be. Despite my children's protests, I actually watched it for the better part of today...well I had it on but I was only partially watching it however it made me feel happy that when I looked at the TV I saw Guy Fieri instead of The Backyardigans.

My personal favourites are Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives and Iron Chef America, but I also really enjoy French Food at Home, Chef at Home and Eat St. Boo and I used to love watching Throwdown with Bobby Flay but haven't seen it on lately. I used to watch a lot of Rachael Ray although her talk show isn't on FN so I often miss it.

The biggest problem I have is that it's absolutely essential that I eat something before or while watching most of these shows because otherwise I'll snack on whatever I can find (Ha, like I need to snack more!!!), so I try to plan accordingly.

Now if you'll excuse me, I need to get back to Alton Brown and tonight's Iron Chef.

Have a blessed weekend!!
Posted Wednesday, November 16, 2011 by Kally83
Blogging. Oh how I have missed you!!

I've survived the first trimester and am starting to feel slightly more normal again. I had my third midwife appointment yesterday and she commented on how exhausted I looked. I have to admit, it felt good to have someone notice. Apparently, since this is my third pregnancy, I have no excuse to need extra help because I've been there, done that. What people seem to forget is I also have a 3 year old and a 16 month old to look after on top of making a baby. I know, no one told me to get pregnant but, well, I am, so understanding that I may not have the energy to be here, there and everywhere would make things just a little easier. Ah well!!

I'm fighting off the urge to start decorating for Yule! The plan is to wait until we go to the Santa Clause parade on the 26th...our "unofficial" start to the holiday season. It's just so darn tempting, because I LOVE everything about December (even the snow!!) We've started our Christmas shopping (barely) but I'm hoping to be done by mid-December. I'm still collecting ideas for Yule gifts for the kids (our aim is only homemade gifts for if only we could convince everyone to do that for Christmas as well!)

I'm also trying to catch up on all of the blogs that I haven't read in ages and hopefully join a Yule blog party (I see buttons for quite a few!!)

Lastly, we're working on collecting and painting toilet paper rolls for our Santa Countdown Calendar. I'm so tired of buying the cheap chocolate ones, bleah!!

Happy Hump Day!!